The BDSM Virgin

My first sexual experience that took my virginity is not one that I wish to share at this time on this blog it was of a violent and abuse nature,  the one that I will share, however, is the night that my BDSM virginity was taken.

I lost my BDSM virginity almost 7 years ago now.  Although I had been curious about BDSM for quite a few years before that time I had not had the opportunity to explore this area of sexuality.

I had heard about alt.com and I signed up.  Alt is a dating site catering to those that are into BDSM and alternative sexual tastes of many and varied types.  I believed myself at the time to be of a submissive nature and this is how I set up my profile.  I was inundated with messages as most single women are on these sites.

I filtered out the dross and ended up chatting regularly to approximately half a dozen men, mainly Dom and Switch but also one or two submissive males.

One of those men was “M” who now shares my life and who is my soulmate and the love of my life; the man who satisfies the needs that I now have.

Going back alt.com, the first person I actually met with was an older Dom male in his late 50’s, with over 25 years experience in the “BDSM scene”.

We had a couple of false starts, I chickened out of the first arranged meetings.  This was a huge step for me and I was, understandably, worried and a little scared.  However, eventually, he persuaded me to meet and to see how it went.

That meeting was the most eye-opening sexual experience I had encountered at that point.

He talked me through what he intended to do (which had been loosely discussed via messages), with my agreement, some restraint, nipple torture, to experience a variety of corporal punishment implements and maybe some fucking if he felt it appropriate.

Here is a synopsis I wrote shortly after the meeting :-

“We got to his flat, I was stripped, fondled and ordered to kiss him.  I then had to present myself (I had been sent pictures to illustrate how he wanted me to present), wrist and ankle cuffs were applied, collar and lead attached to my neck.

I was spread-eagled against a wall, arms tied up, ankles attached to a spreader bar.  Nipple torture commenced not too extreme, hard pinching, and rolling, clamps and weights.   I was blindfolded, clamps removed.  Light flogging of tits and nipples, further pinching and rolling etc. Blindfold removed.

I had no idea on time spans – no clocks anywhere that I could see.

Lead to bedroom.  I was fucked twice there.

We then stopped for a rest period and had a cup of tea!

After the tea I masturbated for him as ordered, I came copiously.

Then onto spanking and flogging. I was bent over a horse (not a live one!) gym type.  I was spanked and flogged with various paddles, whips and hand. This part I really enjoyed – which I totally unexpected!  I relaxed totally into it almost immediately, he was very experienced and was able to quickly find my “sweet spot” and knew exactly the level to pitch it.  As soon as it got too much I used the safe words that we agreed (traffic light system) and he immediately dropped back to a more manageable level.  I zoned almost completely but we had to stop so that I was not to heavily marked.  He then allowed an appropriate length of time for me to settle back down and for the endorphines to drop before moving me, covering me to keep me warm whilst he waited for my endorphines to settle.

Once I was settled he got me up and I was then taken back to the bedroom, where we again fucked. I orgasmed over and over, rolling and rolling.  I masturbated again for him as well.

More tea and time to start the process of my come down, giving me time to settle before I had to drive home.  We chatted generally whilst drinking another very nice cup of tea.  

He then ordered me to perform my masturbation ritual that I carry out for him at home.  This I did, and masturbated for around 20 mins. I came copiously again. He took some pictures of me whilst I masturbated.  I could have carried on longer but he said I should stop as we would need to make a move soon.  He also wanted to make sure I was safe and happy to drive home.

I presented again to finish, he removed the cuffs and allowed me to dress.

This all took from 5.45 when we got to his flat to just after 9pm. He kept totally to a time schedule which was agreed by us previously, so that I was able to be home by around 9.30pm.”

That was the end of my BDSM virginity and the start of a journey that has ended with me being with M who is my love, my soulmate and who continues to encourage and explore with me the joys and fun of kinky times together.

That first experience I look back on with fondness but the real depth of my exploration into the kinkier side of me has been with M.  He and I have a bond that is strong and an understanding of each other that neither of us has had with anyone else and we both look forward to what the future holds.

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6 Comments

  1. sub-Bee

    Isn’t it wonderful to have such a wonderful first experience, it really makes all the difference in beginning to understand who we are.
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  2. Molly

    Positive first experiences are so important I think, they can really be the key that opens a whole new world of joy

    Mollyxxx
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  3. MariaSibylla

    This sounds like a lovely first experience. Thanks for sharing it!
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  4. Cammies on the Floor

    What a great and positive experience to have for your first time.

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  5. Marie Rebelle

    It’s lovely that you had such a good first experience. I never officially had a first BDSM experience, but my first experience with cuffs and clamps was with Master T, long before we made our D/s commitment 🙂

    Rebel xox
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