Sex and Juggling Life (the post I thought I had lost!)

I had thought that I had lost this post following my site collapse at the end of last week but the lovely @TighterThanThat from Tie Me. No, Tighter than That sent me a tweet today with a link to a cached copy of the post in google.

You cannot believe how grateful I am that Tighter than That has found this for me as a lot of thought and a lot of me went into this post.

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You!

So here’s the post that I thought I had lost and I am so pleased that I have been able to share it again with you…

Thank you again @TighterThanThat


I was thinking about sex drive the other day and wondering where mine had gone recently.

As you know I am going through the menopause and my body is all over the place so naturally I put it down to this, but I got to thinking a bit more and started to assess my life as it is at the moment and decided that it was not just down to this but that there were a number of other factors involved.

When we reach middle-age we find that we may be looking after elderly relatives, those of us with children may be helping them through university or college or helping them with their own children, bills still need paying etc. etc. life can be quite full around your 50’s.

When thinking about myself I considered some of the things I have had to deal with over the last few years and it has been quite a bit!

Marriage breakdown, sorting out the separation, buying a new home and all whilst keeping my business running and customers happy.

An elderly relative I help to care for falling further and further into dementia, dealing with doctors, social workers, carers, making sure everything that I look after is sorted for him.

Helping to support my mother as her life changes and she moves into the next phase of her life.

My partner’s difficult ex who, despite my partner trying his best to keep things from interferring into our lives, creates stresses and issues that have to be dealt with as they have a child and, of course, there has to be some contact with the ex because of that.

On the top of these my body is changing and causing total uncertainty with what it is doing and how it is reacting!

From what I have and am experiencing and the level of stresses that these all cause, both physically and mentally, it seems to me that it is the combination of factors rather than just the one thing that causes a loss of sexual appetite from time to time life can be exhausting and exhaustion is not always condusive to feeling like bouncing around the bedroom! This certainly seems true for me at the moment!

I shall just keep juggling the balls of life and hope that things settle to a more balanced state sooner rather than later!


Juggling life



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  1. Modesty Ablaze

    I know exactly what you mean . . . the everyday things do get in the way don’t they!
    I do try to find, or make, occasions to do something different, away from the normal every-day routine. We call them “date nights”, or a “NWA” (naughty weekend away) . . . just to have some special time away from the usual distractions and pressures of home and office.
    Of course, that is easier said than done, but we’ve tried to make it a rule . . . and it is wonderful fun, and a wonderful release, when we achieve it!!!
    Xxx – K
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  2. Marie Rebelle

    Stress, caring for others, being tired, menopause… all things that indeed takes so much energy that sex is almost put on the back burner. Over here, I feel it too. At this moment once a week is the most I can manage, and the drive I had to try something on other days, is gone (for now). I believe it will be back as soon as I am through this very stressful period. Hang in there girl, we will get back in the game! 🙂

    Rebel xox
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  3. Cammies on the Floor

    Some very good reasons why your sex drive may be off. Heck, every part of my life would be off. Way to juggle, and don’t forget to take care of yourself!


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