Define Your Kinky Self – 30 Days of Kink Day 1

Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us…

I identify as Switch as I have been told that I dominate as well as I submit.

When my partner “M” and I play it is usually with him as Dom/Top and me in the submissive role.  This is because he is more dominate than he is submissive so it is only rarely that the tables are turned.

This suits me very well as being a business owner, I have to make lots of decisions all day and for me it is lovely to be able to just let M make those decisions in the bedroom.   It enables me to switch off and just let him decide what is best and to take that responsibility, if it involves a flogger and my bare skin you can pretty much guarantee a very relaxed and content Velvet by the end of the session!

However, I can be feisty and defiant and sometimes M really has to assert himself to bring me into line.  It can take time to get to the submissive side of me depending on what has happened at work and it is at these times I can be a challenge to M as he has to work hard to break through that wall to find the submissive that needs to submit in order to find her peace and relaxation.

On the odd occasions when those tables are turned I do enjoy the dominate role.  I love the teasing side of being dominate and keeping someone on the edge of a sensation or feeling until they are begging for me to tip them over whatever that edge is.

I am also quite a perverted sole.  I am prepared to consider things (legal) that others will not and I have experimented in some of the more extreme areas of sexuality.  This is something that I may well blog about in more depth at some point in the future.

It is also wonderful to have a partner in M that is just as, if not more so, perverted as me and with whom I can explore this darker side of me without him thinking that I am weird.  My mind can take me to dark places and in him I have the opportunity to explore these places safely with someone who will not judge but who will have a go at exploring with me.

One thing that I am definitely not and that is a slave, be it domestic, sexual or any other sort of slave.  There is no way I could give myself to someone and then allow them to do/demand whatever they want, whenever they want.

I am also not into objectification, for example being a table or a chair for someone, that does nothing for me whatsoever.  Nor will you find me being a pony or a dog, or dressed up as an animal, again that has no sexual appeal to me whatsoever, I am a woman and wish to be treated as a woman.  Use and abuse me yes but don’t ask me to curl up at your feet dressed as a dog or have me prance around as a pony that is something that I would get absolutely nothing out of.

I look forward to exploring more of my sexuality with M and delving deeper into those dark recesses of my mind (and his – gulp!) and seeing where it takes us and how it enriches our lives as a couple.

 

30 DOK Day1

My bum and our leather flogger from above

 

 

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A sexually liberated woman entering her 50's, sharing her new life as she transitions into middle-age.
Velvet will share her stories, both autobiographical and fictional together with poetry, when the inspiration takes her, as well as some of her photography.
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